Reelin' in the Years

[Ohio_Mark]

Hey Mark... I read somewhere that at the base of most anger is pain. She's lashing out because deep down she is hurt for some reason. Maybe she's hurt that you have let go and refuse to play her games???

Thanks for the post on my thread. She is hurt because I emotionally abandoned her. And I did. Of course, she has exaggerated it, but, no matter. The damage is done.

Have you ever considered having a genuine heart to heart with her? That might fly in the face of DB, but what have you got to lose at this point? Tell her you love her and that you want more than anything to have your family whole again(even if you only feel 50/50 about it).

This discussion would have no benefit at all. She knows I would like to have the family whole. But what she wants and what I want are two very different things (see below).

I get the feeling she is looking for you to reach out to her... I certainly understand if you dont think you can do that at this point but, somethings gotta give. Maybe its your marriage or your pride.

She is not looking for me to reach out to her. She is waiting for her boyfriend to move to this area (after our divorce is final). He is her soulmate, her ideal person. And I am not.

Yeah, I get the whole fantasy thing. I'm not beating myself up over this. Look, she will permit only one person to reach out to her, and it isn't me. I'm not upset about it any more. I don't have any tears for myself.... only for my kids...