Azhira, I'm so sorry it didn't go how you wanted. I think it was all necessary though...better to know where it stands.
I agree with Dom...tell him what you want and make him choose it or not.
He's been getting everything handed to him on a silver platter and all at no 'emotional cost' whatsoever to him. I couldn't believe it when I read all of the financial support you've been giving him!! He can justify JD becuase you're divorced...but you can support him in the meantime even though you're divorced? Yes...he is delusional.
He's living the good life and you just pulled it out from underneath him...and he's going to make it look like it's all about your son.
My H is doing the same thing right and I'm trying to find the way to make him understand that if he isn't seeing his kids as often as he wants that it is the reality based on his choices and not me using the kids as pawns. They think everything is about THEM!!
Don't worry about being that way in front of your S...if it was a habit then it might be a problem, but every kids sees conflict at one time or another.
Azhira...I think whatever 'lunatic' behaviour you're displaying right now you're completely entitled to. I think it's been building up in you that it was bound to come out. And as far as your missing him, of course you do. In a sense you just got another bomb drop and you're revisiting a lot of those feelings. Don't be too hard on yourself! I'm glad to hear that you're finally telling him how you feel and making your needs and wants a priority. J~
