Grid th 48 hour rule means to wait 48 hrs before responding to e-mails, phone calls etc., if possible, to give you time to think about what you might say, to keep yourself from saying something in the heat of the moment.
Our kids are 19 to 26yo, all of them don't understand why she wants to D. She doesn't talk to them about it or they don't tell me what she tells them. I know my S's have very hard feelings towards her. They have given up calling her because she won't return their calls, they've given up. They say they have called her 8 or 9 times without a return call. My 19yo D said that W wanting a D is stupid.
If she gets the D, I thing I'll leave the door open. Don't know how long , but I'll wait a while. I'm pretty sure she is in a MLC, the MC we saw together says it is probably one.
Most of of our decisions were made by both of us, what repairs to house, vacations, buying things. I never bought much for myself, my only indulgence was I bought myself good photography equipment. I do OK in that department. My S26 liked my pics of his wedding better than the guy he hired. I have several photos printed to 8x10 and hanging on the walls.
Grid I'm glad to have been a help.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
