Thanks Jar... appreciate it. Does your wife still think you are out meeting other girls? So many times Ive seen people come running back once the betrayed spouse starts to move on. It worked in my sitch when I met a girl and started dating her (I was ceratin that my W wasnt coming back) even though I never told W about my new flame, she could sense it and came running back. Its funny how the people we love can "feel" when someone else is present.
I definately felt another persons presence right about the time my W started dating OM. Just goes to show that if we truly detach and arent faking our detachment in hopes it will bring the spouse back, they seem to definately notice.
Now..Im not suggesting you go date someone, that would be bad. Im suggesting you truly detach for you, trust me she will notice.
Easier said than done, I know. If only I could take my own advice.
H4C
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
Thanks hurtin... She asks me all the time if I'm seeing someone else. I don't lie.. I tell her that I've seen some people (which I have) and I don't have a GF.
At this point, I don't mind dating. I'm not ready for it, but If I meet someone I like I will date. Why not.. she's doing her thing.. might as well do mine.
That helps with PMA and detaching.
So.. update. W calls looking for the D's Bengals jerseys. Says she will come by and get them. Not sure why.. the game has been on for a while. I think it was an excuse to stop by. She didn't have the D's and made a point to mention this.
Let me tell you... you could cut the sexual tension with a toothpick. I stayed cool though. She asked how I was doing. I said OK!! Asked how she was.. OK.. as good as I can be was her response.
She stayed very close... she wanted to make a move but didn't. I sure as hell wasn't going to.
She left and asked for a hug.. I gave her one (we've hugged off and on the whole time). Very strange.. Got to be extremely careful. Man she looks good though.
Not that I was expecting anything, but just talked to the D's. Evidently they are spending the night at OM's again. 2 nights in a row.
D3 has not been feeling good. I told W I wasn't trying to be a jerk, but I didn't think it was a good idea to be staying at OM's while D3 was sick. Of course I got the "She's fine now"
Jar...sorry to hear that. That kind of stuff creates havoc for me. Im impressed at how well you handle it, Im hoping I can get that kind of confidence back.
Sorry your D is sick but on the other hand, it might keep W busy with her and she wont be able to spend quality time with OM.
Have you ever considered going dark for awhile to shake things up? Be unavailable for a few days and see how she reacts, dont pick up your phone, dont call her.
When you see her in the morning when you takes the D's to school, open up your cell and act like you're on this really important phone call and cant speak to W because you have to go. I bet you $5 she says something about it. Give her the notion that you're getting tired of her shenanigans and that you're moving on and busy in your life.
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
She texts me at 0645 this morning to say she forgot D5's backpack for school. She asked if I could drive to her work.. get the keys to her Apt, get D's backpack and bring it back to her work.
Is she F'n kidding me?
Then... D3's B-day is today. She must've forgotten because she asked me to bring some cupcakes for her class.
