an xh, his FF, Thanksgiving, MIL, and one psuedo-R

[Dom R]

Sorry about the horrible blow to your system.

cant say it's really a surprise. but it's sad.

I'm glad you're not playing "nice" with him.

I think you do owe him ONE thing, though, and the sooner you tell him, the better.

Right now, you're just cutting him off.
And he's desperately trying to come back.
He really wants to get you back.
This wont last.

SO, make use of that, while it is still in him.


Tell him how he could make it up to you.
Then accept zero subtitutions or weasling.
"Take it or leave it".

Tell him, "If you want things to be the nice, intimate, close way between us.. then dump her. Irrevokably, in a way that is public to me".

MB, of course, recommends "the letter". That he shows to you, before sending it to her. This isnt quite "an affair", since you were, indeed, divorced. But he was 100% "cheating on you". you were in an intimate relationship.

PS: you should also let her husband know.

PPS: "wah wah you're punishing me!!!". Yeah, they always want to play the victim, instead of acknowleging how they've hurt YOU and betrayed YOU with their lies and actions, rather than the other way around.
Funny, that.