Not much to report in my relationship. The last time I saw my W was the time she came round to give me the "it's over" verdict on our separation. So that was that. Lot's of comments about our R now being fundamentally different, which is quite funny really since ever since she left I haven't been all that aware of what she has been up to, who she is seeing or been 'allowed' to make any serious plans to meet up. So not much difference there then. So much for using the time wisely. I feel like I've been conned.
We're now in the realms of slowly unpicking our lives, starting with our finances, which is not much fun. We normally have some form of contact about once a week. I still miss her and I still love her, so it's been very hard at times - surprisingly hard. I still think about what has happened a huge amount. I'm not sure she thinks about me much at all. I also wonder if there is someone else, but our lives are so separate that I would need someone to tell me and that won't be her.
Basically, I'm trying to concentrate on me. I'm trying to work out what things I enjoy and what I want from life. Like many people here I imagine, doing fun things sometimes feels like you are just going through the motions - but things are slowly changing (sometimes it feels quite glacial though). I have a bit of stability back in my life and that is very welcome. I can't wait for 2008.
Sounds like you are having a rough time. I think getting to the saying goodbye stage is very hard and frightening. I would hate to think that I would never have any contact with my W again, in spite of all the pain that this process has inflicted on us both.
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
