Well, I hate to burst your bubble, I say, but I am not your family and I am not your wife. We are dating, and MY family issues are not your problem. (Buying me stuff.... is one thing. Something he does because he wants to.) That didn't sit real well with him, but I really wasn't worried about it sitting well with him.
I'm NOT playing House here....
{IC again still waving the white flag} discounting the wife comment...would it have made a difference if it was an expensive gift for you because HE wanted to...because he cares for YOU ? Or say bf is a really good mechanic and because it's YOUR dad and bf cares for YOU...he fixes the car for free that normally would have cost say...$800 at a garage?
Just a quick question..{don't have to answer on here} Is the $800 a lot to your bf? Not comparing $800 to this, but would you be pissed at him if say you couldn't pick the boys up from hockey practice so bf did and took them out for $25 pizza and ice cream...because HE WANTED to?
You say...
I get that. So when BF makes gestures to pay for things regarding my house or my kids... I get cranky because it DOES feel fuzzy to me. It isn't his job. I think it's nice and noble... but I don't want to be like my dad, kwis?....
I understand your boundaries and maybe he is pushing them...but I can see his side of it as well. You took on your family problems...thus making them YOUR problem...BF loves and cares for YOU...It's not bf's JOB or responsibility to do ANYTHING ! ...but because bf loves and cares for YOU, he offers to help out because he WANTS to. I'm failing to see this as "playing house" or how this makes you like your dad.
FWIW..I had a similar situation with Miss IC's parent's house early on when we were dating...it wasn't my job, wasn't my problem, I didn't see it as playing house...I did it because I loved and cared for Miss IC, and because of that, I did it because I wanted to, not expecting anything in return.
