Okay, so BB is capable of behaving like a responsible, caring adult. IOW, she has a functional cow. Now, it is abundantly clear that you have the male equivalent of a cow (let's call it the St. Bernard) which is, obviously, a good thing. Unfortunately, due to your FOO experiences you are unable to move freely out of the St. Bernard quadrant into the other quadrants of your identity. You don't have the problem of having too much Puppy Dog- you don't treat BB like a goddess or a queen but because you stay stuck in St. Bernard, you treat her too much like a princess or a baby.
Anyways, question number two: How do you behave when you are actually having sex with BB? IOW, how do you f*ck? (This might seem like a stupid question but it is based on my recent re-discovery that different men do the basic deed differently and thereby convey different messages to their partners.)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
