I am not sure why you can't get to my old thread, I cannot find it either. I will ask for help from the moderator. I have been at this awhile, a little over a year now. My w is very unsure, I hear/see lots of good things, but in reality not much has changed over the year, back and forth quite a bit. W is having an affair with the father of ss, started as friends soon after we were married. The thoughts of moving out are more for myself than anything else, I can't hang in this limbo. In fact I am not sure I want my wife anymore and am tired of being so low on the totum pole. She is out with friends with or without OM at least 3 times a week and usually spends the night. I am fortunate however that we still get along as friends and there has been very little bitterness, except some on my part, but that was early on but rears its head on occasion. I still have confusion about the move at times, but we had a talk several weeks ago about me looking for a place, which I initiated. I think perhaps this may be the only thing left to save this m, to find clarity for myself.
