Another thread... another dollar

[fightingirish]

Wow that is crazy!! The nerve of some people..

So I don't want you to take this the wrong way and Ive been putting off writing to you because Your w's actions are just so totally crazy.

Please don't get sucked in to the kiss or ILY thing. This gives her hope that even though she's with the om that you will stick around. Im again not saying to be mean, but you need to state that as far as her and you go that until she has made a descion of who she wants there will be no kissing. I don't understand that whole thing.

Husband read a book called know more mr. nice guy.. you may want to ask him about it, I think it does apply to you.

She is really playing head games. We want our spouses to want us, but just my opinion, I don't want my H if he wants someone else also, I just couldn't.

Think about it.

I know its hard but she also seems a bit immature.. I could be wrong here...

tal

[Larrynarry]

You are totally right. I've been thinking about it.. I'm trying to find a happy middle ground. I need to not get sucked in..

I'm trying to play it cool.. I honestly feel like if things work out.. great.. if not.. I can do better. I truly believe that.

I'm also thinking that.. and this maybe silly, but OM's Kung Fu isn't so strong. She still has feelings/thoughts for me. I think she's very confused.. things are starting to become reality for her. That's good.. she needs to realize what she's doing. We'll see how it goes. I need to keep some boundaries up..

[LL44]

I don't want my H if he wants someone else also, I just couldn't.

I am right there TAL, right there. It took me awhile. If I feel myself being pulled towards H, (I am always attracted to him), then I just look at his phone, think of OW, the lies, whatever it takes to remind me that this is NOT my H.

I have no idea what your wife is trying to do, asking for kisses and attention from you. I just don't know what to tell you, advice-wise, since we are all in different situations.

[fightingirish]

Yes, and Im glad you understand what I was trying to say. Yes, you can do better. I do think she has feelings for you but cannot choose.

The men on this board are one in a million, there arent many out they like you all. Its a shame that your wasted and taken advantage of.

My H doesn't know how good he has it!!

tal

[LL44]

She still has feelings/thoughts for me. I think she's very confused..

Oh I have no doubt she has feelings for you. This is part of her confusion. But she worked to push you away, now she must work to get you back....

[Larrynarry]

I do need to read "No more Mr. nice guy" I'd really like a good perspective on that. I also need to read "Love must be tough".. I've got that one. Just need to read it.

I think at some point, I need to level the field. Tell her where I am.

[fightingirish]

yes, that would be a great idea... then there is no questions.

tal

[fightingirish]

gotta go.. have a great day!!

tal

[LL44]

you too!

[Hurtin4certain]

Hey Jar... seems like your wife is fence sitting for sure. A kiss? WTF is that? SHe wants OM and you. Keep detaching and working on yourself.

Quick question, my D left W a voicemail this morning asking her what she was doing. W called back and D answered the phone. She told D she was out jogging with OM. Why would she tell D something like that? SHe knows it will get back to me. Is W trying to make me jealous or is she signifying that she's done with me?

Help! Just a few months ago we were a family again and we never even argued!