Corri I am not my bf's wife. But I think out of 16 years of conditioning, I am behaving like a wife, not a girlfriend. OK, I understand that line.
I tell BF 'bout it all. BF gets... agitated. Says he will help me with it. Why, I says? We are dating. He says, No, you are my family... I think of you as my wife. He meant it as a compliment, but man did it piss me off. I understand the dating thoughts. Perfectly logical. The W was a bit strong for him to say. You being pi$$ed, that is a little over the top.
as I'm working through my pissed off-ness... the light bulb clicks on. I AM playing house. Good insight.
He asks me what's okay to do and not do around my house. Or like with my dad. He brings it up for conversation. And if he didn’t ask and just did it, I think you wouldn’t like it.
Just so Corri knows where I am coming from, I am like Mojo described her dad. My father would have committed Hari-Kari before he would have borrowed money from one of his daughters.
I agree with Mojo think you should let your father sink or swim Corri, I see a connection between you taking responsibility for your fathers lack of responsibility and getting PO'ed at men you might date in general and /the BF. What is up with that?????? (thinking time, not a criticism)
What does your father do with the money he earns? If he needs his car to earn money then car expenses come before some other things. You can't work w/o tools. His car is a tool.
Is he living with your mother? If he lives alone then I can see why you or your mother wants to pay to have his car repaired.
I can see a connection between your BF paying (if you let him) and you not wanting to feel obligated to your BF.
Is it that obligation=LSD?
That isn’t the only connection I thought of, just the first one that came to mind.
