Corri,
I'm not saying this to piss you off. {I hope you know by now, that I don't work that way \:\) } I just found it somewhat interesting that you said this:

In my mind, if you are the man, and you are going to BE the man, you DO it. You don't ask me. You do or you don't. You may INFORM me. If you want my input, you might ASK me. But then you go and DO. Or not. Period.

and this...

I tell BF 'bout it all. BF gets... agitated. Says he will help me with it.

I think I know how you feel about this...but just my observation...sounds like he WAS trying to BE the man..kwim?

"If you can't lick em, lick em" - Ted Nugent