How to explain a boundary

[Dom R]

Crap...he came around when I wasn't here and must have looked at my history. He found this thread.

He left me a very sad and sweet note. Feels that I am turning his parents against him (I'm worried about him and I was worried about myself) and that he can't talk to them when he is ready to.
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Can I f*ck the poor guy up any more?

Dont panic.

I think this could be a really good thing.
He didnt react with anger. HE actually read your stuff, and it sank in, to some degree.

I think that what you should do is point out to him ,... gently...,that his parents are reacting to what HE is doing. They are upset with him, as a result of his actions.
And that if he doesnt want his parents upset by his actions.. then isnt it his responsability to either change his actions, or deal with the consequences of his choices?


PS: I originally quoted back "turned against him". I rewrote it as "upset with him". That may be a good thing for you to do also, if you talk to him about it.