Do you think that there is a 180 somewhere in your sitch? What would happen if you didn't allow any R talks? What if you initiated R talks everyday? What if you really did start putting extra money to the side? Are there any other consequences you can deliver for your H speaking with OW everyday? Technically, he has a good thing going. He can live at home, work as usual and continue to speak with OW daily. I'm not suggesting "kicking" him out - I don't think he would go, anyway, based on past experience, but there might be something you could do at home to deliver some sort of consequence for his actions...just a thought.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
