Thanks again Jeff. This something which is going to have to be done very carefully. Knowing my ex as I do I have a feeling that once she realises what has been given up a light may come on. BUT I do not want it to seem as if I am asking her tom come back , neither do I want her to feel as though she may come 'crawling' back. And you are right of course, I dont want the kids to feel as if they are in the middle of a, plot to get mum back'.
My understanding is that she wont be able to afford the airfare, so somehow Ive got to get to a point where an offer by me to pay her fare to see the kids would be accepted without her fearing any motives or conditions, which would cause resentment.
Certainly from my point I have got over the anger of the D and am moving on. This time last year I was really in another place. I have now got used to living without a partner, my career is getting back on track, slowly but surely finances are getting better.
I guess first and foremost is the job of gradually building some trust between us.
Interestingly, her mother thinks that she is hiding her feelings and probably needs to realise what she has left behind. I must see the situation from the 'map of my ex w's world'.
