LWB, I read your post and what puzzled me is why he is having the trust issues. That blows my mind as my H does it, too. It's like because they have been so untrustworthy, it makes them untrusting of others.
If he thinks you're hiding money, or are going to serve him with D papers any day, he certainly realizes how hard this has been for you or realizes that you will not live like this much longer. I know you've told him that, too.
One other thing, if he is talking to OW, she could be filling his head with crap, too. I know OW was doing the same in my sitch. (Perhaps she still is, but I think I have proved my trustworthiness over hers.)
Is he seeing an IC? I'm wondering if he isn't somewhat depressed with your comment about 'yet more people he is pushing away.'
(((HUGS))) for you today. But glad you were able to get out last night!
