Another Corri Thread

[MJontheMend]

I don't have any great advice to offer except to comment on the fact that I always learn so much from your POV because mine is so much the opposite. You regard a "cow who gives away her milk for free" as "bad" or at least "stupid" because she's being taken advantage of, I regard a "cow who gives away her milk for free" as "good" or "generous" because she's being the opposite of a prostitute who sells her milk and she's behaving like somebody who has so much of the good stuff in life that she can afford to give some away.


I think that we're both right but I don't know how to resolve the issue or what the real "true" statement about a cow would be. However, one of the things that I like about GP is that he views me as someone who was ABLE to stay with my 2bx because I had relatively high self-esteem and functioning rather than someone who was UNABLE to leave my 2bx because I had relatively low self-esteem and functioning. ( I think both are true depending once again on POV). The reason he views me that way is that he respects the fact that my goal or purpose in life while my children were young was to "have a happy family life." That is why I say that he admires my cow. He says rather sternly "I can not and will not understand why you put yourself down. You did what any red-blooded American woman would do in you situation." So, it's like he views my cow as some sort of unevenly yoked oxen dragging the pioneer wagon over the prairie and continuing to produce milk while crossing the desert.