WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

[Lkyguy]

Excellent advice.... the pa/ea (real or imagined)is a symptom of M problems...not the problem...treating the symptom doesn’t work. In my mind its always the worst case scenario....she is in love w OM...I tend to torture myself.... this is obviously anti productive....You can not help her to find her feelings.. She will resent you if you try...you MUST work on the only person you can change...you....this is a slow process....expect the roller coaster....don’t be 2 quick to move toward her emotionally if she shows signs of softening...... this is the hardest thing I have ever done....you are not alone....hang in there


ps AA has given me a support group, friends that know how to have fun without drinking/drugging, something to do on a "Friday night"....can be helpful...