Women: Post D - What kind of men are you meeting?

[DadNotQuitting]

OK, this is primarily a topic for women in the 38 - 48 age range, but anyone is free to chime in.

Here's what I want to know. For those of you women that are divorced, or separated and are out on the dating scene, I've been wondering something. What kind of men are out there? What guy is 40-plus and looking to get together (date, relationship, etc..) with a woman who is coming out of a fairly recent divorce, or is separated? PLEASE, do not take any offense, because that is not what this is about.

Now, for those of you that have been following my crazy-ass saga in the MLC forum, you more or less know my story, so maybe you know why I'm asking this. For the rest, what I'm trying to figure out is what kind of prospects my wife might be seeing. She is 40, deep-deep MLC, we are separated, she has filed for D, did the restraining order thing against me, had an affair or two, and is simply an emotional wreck. BTW, I'd be her third divorce. She has a ten-year old from M#2, and we have D8 and S6 together. She does have one thing going for her though - she looks like she's about twenty-seven, has a sexy accent, is fun to be around, extraordinarily good looking, perfect body with the fake boobs and all that. She can certainly attract plenty of attention.

Given that, she will meet her fair share of men. She's on myspace and sometimes on match.com. But what kind of guy is going to want a three-times divorced, mother of three young children, with enough emotional baggage to fill up your garage?

This is not an ego thing for me, but...... I'm also forty, considered decent enough looking, in good shape, dress well, am a business professional that has made a very good living. Let me just say this, once I'm back out in the market again (those that know my sitch, put away the 2x4's!) and met someone like my wife, I'd be instantly attracted to her, and certainly want to get horizontal. However, it wouldn't take too long to have her hysterical BS show through, and that would be a major turn off to me right now. Then, I'd consider the 3 D's, 3 kids, 3 personalities and once the two or three weeks of fun is over, I'd find the exit.

Again, this is not meant to be a harsh insight into the life of a post-40 MLCer. I genuinely want to know what women, normal women, find on the dating scene. Aren't all the good men snatched up pretty quickly?

OK, hit me with it......