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[nephartiti]

Hi Jenny. Regarding defending yourself without being defensive...

I think RCR put it best
"Do not fear the anger. Be consistent. His goal is to be angry at you so you break. Your goal is to be loving to him--softening his anger and paving a safe path home. The road is paved with consistency."

Consistency is the key. That doesn't mean you have to do whatever he wants. If you are not ready to pump, stand firm. If you are not ready to sell, stand firm. You have rights and you deserve respect. Passive resistance, I suppose. Don't accept anything less than what you deserve. You are doing great. You are not feeding into his anger, but you are holding your boundaries. You are amazing! You are doing so well. Really, you are. No one said it would be easy.