i didn't realize that he hadn't left yet. i am so so sorry. the pain of the suitcase i cant even imagine. I remember finding or seeing the boxes in the closest. we had set a day - march 12 - we planned that he woudl take son to the airport (he was heading out of town on his senior trip) and then he would just go from there. head to work and not come home...

The next day my son called from Colorado. One of his friends from his class was killed in a freak skiing accident. I called H sobbing..my d11 was crying "I want my family - all my family home now..." He came home for the night, stayed in the room with D11. And left again that next day - it was suppose to be amicable..we were suppose to work on ourselves and then see where it took us...he lied...

He found another woman within a month...she bought a car from him and then wow they saw each other that evennign at a local restaurant.....and it started..

i ache so hard. i am sorry for your pain, for anyones pain. this is hell.


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again