Treese...your story is very similar to my own...right down to the ages except H and I married younger so had been married a few years longer...although not together...we started dating when I was 15...
All I can tell you is you are more ahead then I was...my H didn't even have any "love" for me...he felt NOTHING...how is that for a blow after being together for so long...
My recommendation is to leave him alone...try and get a hold of your feelings as best you can...create your own life...DB your butt off!!!...It will get easier...but will warn you that you need to work on you...work on patience...and focus on taking care of you and the kids as best you can at this difficult time...
My H went through a MLC...it started about 2 years before he left...and continued for another 2 years while he was gone and 2 more year after his return....so all in all it has been a 7 year process...patience is not only a vurtue it is a MUST!
