Hi Jeff, thanks for the reply, I really didnt think I would get back on here once I knew divorce was inevitable. Yes I have been dating but not much. Financially it is still very tight and now with kids back time is very tight also. Financially' I cant get (or expect, really) any maintenance from ex W.
Your advice is greatly apprecated. In fact I have asked for her advice about raising the kids. And she really seemed to appreciate it. Its the first time we have communicated verbally since the divorce. My son got into the local newspaper for a sports award this week - Ive cut the article out and sent it to her.
I guess I had resigned myself to the fact that we would always be apart (even though I still over her) BUT my kids look like lost souls most of the time. They have no idea when they will see their mum again because she cant say when she will be able to afford the airtickets.
I was thinking that I deal with it as you said, and then possibly arrange for an airticket for her to come and visit around Easter next year. I also thought that she could stay at the house and I go stay with friends or family. My thoughts here are that there would be no pressure between us and she could use the opportunity to begin to realise what she had given up.
Your wise thoughts would be appreciated. This could be quite a journey!!
