Welcome back. I was going to ask for more info but when I looked at your posts I noticed I responded to you over a year ago. It sucks we are both still here.
And your situation is about the same I see, except you got the divorce. I am so sorry for that.
All I can recommend is to give her the space you have been giving. How do the kids keep in touch? If they write letters (if not, start) you may want to add a few words at the end - or enclose a note of your own. Catch her up on the family. Add some pictures. Tell her how much better the money situation is now (I assume it is). Ask her advice if you have a question concerning raising your kids.
Be matter of fact, like you have moved on. Paint a good picture; that things are fine.
Ask her questions about her life - draw her out. Then empathize all you can. Don't judge - support her.
But don't play the guilt card. Be VERY careful here.
Maybe, just maybe she will start to reconsider.
Okay - it has been a year. What have YOU done to move on? What is your GAL? Are you dating?
