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Hello Everyone,

I miss U guys and gals. I cant really keep up with everyones sitches. So i dont log on till im really down. not enough time in the day.

Update:

wife came home from her trip and wanted to try with me. Only cause one of her friends told her that i was thinking of ending it on her way home. I still slept in spare room. We went on couple dates just to eat.

At this point i could tell she was trying a little.
Very busy with school, work, activities, etc.
She started doing less and less. Then one night om calls home phone asking for her. I asked what he wanted several times, he said to speek with my w. So i gave her the phone.
He may have called back I dont remember but he kind of appologized and said he wouldnt call home phone anymore, something like that, I didnt say anything.

Later i told her him or me. I wont be put back into her talking to him and acting like she may want me. She said its hard to quit talking to him. I asked in the week(s) after if she was comunicating with om, (email, phone, texting). She said no.

She didnt seem to be opening up to me. Nov 6 to 9th i had to go to Kansas for work. I spoke to her every day after work. she seemed ok but short to talk.

I got home a little earlier than expected. (She is working now at a business uptown, making little above min wage, she likes it accept the time off for holidays and the pay) She was at work and when i walked into the computer livingroom her instant messager was open with the web cam setup. I had tossed that thing behind the desk a long time ago.

When she got home she asked whats wrong. I said why dont u tell me and mentioned the computer.

She still says she doesnt want a d. I told her its pretty crappy to keep me around for a couple of holidays, if thats what she is doing. I told her that i will not be put back into that situation.

She hasnt lied about anything as far as i know up till now.
I broke some DB rules and checked cell phone records.
The day after i told her i wouldnt b put into this sitch again was d16s 17th bday, w took her and some friends to fargo mall and home for party in evining. Records say she spent a total of about 2hrs talking to om.
I never said anything about that to her.
This morning she left for work a half hour early.
Records show a call right after she left house.
At dinner (noon) i asked her if she had called to her sisters where inlaws are staying this morning. she said no. when she left for work i logged on to see if she made another call and she did.

Before i new this in some of our r talks she mentioned liking that i had been out gal-ing. that being the reason to try with me.

Now i dont know what to do. I basically gave her the ultamatum earlier and she has chose him and doesnt know i know she is speeking with him.

Could she b speeking to him as a friend? Yes but unlikly.

I was taking out the garbage in upstairs bathroom and dumped it into bag, what was on the bottom was now on top, she had ordered a jersey and wrapped it in b-day wrapping paper and sent it to him. I did tell her i found this.


Knowing what i know doesnt help me to ask her out on date and makes me realize thats why she isnt open to me in conversations.

I feel like i should step up my gal, witch hasnt been much lately.

I am making plans to go chop our own Christmas maybe tomarrow. Yes really chop it down myself. I've always wanted to do this. I think there is a place less than an hour away.

Our credit cards are almost maxed out. I did something I wouldnt normally do on Black Friday, I bought a 32" HDTV for $450. Im normally not like this but i figured she had a couple of vacations this year (with om) for alot more money than that. I also bought some gifts for her and kids.

Enough for now i have to go pick up son and cousin at bils house.

Any input would be appreciated!!

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