A question for the ladies

[Heywyre]

I have to go with imLIN and what I previously said ...

I have been on both ends - sex and no love, love and no sex and if I had to choose, I would much prefer the love with no sex.

Right now, my H and I are going through some major crisis issues in our life, other than the lack of sex, but had we not had any love for each other, there is no way we would be still sticking it out. Will we stay together - whose to say, that is still yet to be determined. There are a lot of "other" issues that will decide that besides "love"

However, I know my H loves me - unfortunately he does not desire me. He does not desire ANY woman, he never has in his whole life, at least not the way most of us would describe "desire". My H thinks of women as sex objects - in his 63 years of life, I am the first woman he has EVER had both a friendship and sexual experience with at the same time. Women in his past have been either sexual OR friendship, NEVER both together.

Does he have some "issues" - you bet he does. Can they be resolved - time will tell, I am guessing probably not as they are too engrained. But I still have hope.

Will that change our love and friendship for each other - no. That will always remain. IF we were to separate, it would NOT be for the lack of love between us. It would also not be because of the lack of sex. The reasons would be totally unrelated to either.