Well, you can't, of course. It's a crapshoot. All I know is, if I had to do it over again, I would be veeeerrrrrrryyyyyyy wary about choosing someone who had a strong history of limited affectionate and/or sexual touch, just because I know about the possibility of reversion .... and what my priorities are.
I hear what you are saying. Luckily, GP has no history of limited sexual touch - lol. Although I do think he admires my cow, I think his primary LL would be quality time. It's not that he would want me to bake him a pie. He would like to sit in the kitchen talking to me while I baked him a pie while wearing some sort of uber-curve enhancing /muscular leg revealing polka dot dress and apron combo and bright red lipstick.
The reasons why physical touch is not his primary language are different from the reasons why it wasn't my 2bx's. My 2bx was born with severe eczema/nervous monkey metabolism and he had a neurotic mother who was a smother/hugger. GP was raised in an environment that taught "men don't touch/cuddle" and his mother wasn't a hugger but he had an excellent relationship with her. He regarded his mother as one of his best friends and advisers. He said that when he was a young adult she would call him up and say "Son, I'm cooking something and you need to come on over here and eat." then she would feed him and then she would make him do something like wash her car while she would sit on a chair smoking a cigarette and make conversation with him until he let her know what was up in his life. He said that she would have liked me because I'm a "talker" too but she would have regarded me as relatively wimpy and might have said something to me like "Girl, if you have any trouble with that boy of mine just send him over to see me. I'll set him right."
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