Yeah you may be right and I am being careful in that I know there're no guarantees but I don't really have a choice. I'll try my best to make this work. I'll give her what she needs and what she felt was missing from our relationship i.e.

1. compliments - I was bad at this because it seemed corny to me to compliment her on her great looks or sexy outfits or her smarts and qualities all the time

2. gifts - I used to buy big gifts for her two or three times a year, what she wants is little things more often

She has been making concerted efforts to make me happy and to care about things that are important to me. She calls, even when I don't, to ask if she could come over to hang out with us after work. She tries to be playful and funny, she lies down next to me and hugs me when we're putting D down for a nap, she helps prepare dinner, she puts stuff away at my house like D's clothes, dishes from the dish washer etc.

Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo
1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later)
2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY)
3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce)
4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>