You were given perfectly clear instructions by your wife:
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You are right.I do care about you and want to be your friend. I just don't want to be romantic. It is not what I feel and I haven't for a long time - you are right, never is probably not the right word. And I know you would do anything to please me right now.it is overwhelming for me. But it is also very frustrating.I do want space and I do need to live apart. If you won't move out, then the kids and I will and we can see how it goes. I just need my space.I feel like I can't do anything without you watching me or listening to me. And I need to talk to my friends right now and hang with them.
You are breaking DB rules and you will set yourself back.
How completely nervy, pushy, controlling, and perhaps sneaky from her point of view, would it be for you to slip a book into her bags and even specify the chapter YOU think she should read!!??
She hasn't made up her mind, that is you reading her mind. You have no F'ing idea what she is thinking. Go ask Sandi or WAW1978 for a good slap and a dose of perspective.
Don't give her the book. Give her space. It's really hard to fight the temptation to push and pursue. I feel you but you gotta knock it off. Really, you can't even set your DB clock and start counting until you stop this behavior. What will get you closer to goals? Do that instead.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
