From time to time I do that and then he really blows up: "I guess I'm just a LOSER then! I failed! I made a mistake! I'm just an a$$hole!" This shouted while he paces around the room waving his arms.
Hmmm, I'm seeing a pattern here. They older man I went with before I married my H used to do something like this (he didn't shout, however). He'd say, "Well, if I'm such a pi$$-poor son-of-a-b*tch, I don't see why you bother to hang around with me!"
That's the pre-emptive strike in lieu of a simple apology.
Sometimes bf does apologize later... he never used to do that. Is that progress? (Rhetorical question.)
