That reminds me. I need to put a piece of adhesive tape on my good leg with a note that says: "Not this one. The other one." just to make sure they "fix" the correct ankle. When you're asleep, they can do anything to you.
Thanks for the validation, Mrs. N.
Would you or someone straighten this out: Am I totally off-base or doesn't the LL concept mean that your LL is the one you habitually use to EXPRESS your love AS WELL AS the one in which you want love expressed to you?
Thus an Acts of Service person usually expresses love by washing your car, fixing your favorite dinner, etc., and if you perform Acts of Service for this person, they also feel loved. The idea of the book is that you may perform Acts of Service for your spouse because that's YOUR LL, but if your partner's LL is physical touch, they won't feel loved unless they get hugs, kisses, and sex.
So the Acts of Service person needs to learn to EXPRESS love in physical touch, because their partner will not FEEL loved with a clean car, a mopped kitchen floor, and a freezer full of homemade lasagna. This is so clear to me. I don't see anything contradictory, but I MIGHT BE WRONG.
Dom, I'm a very fast reader.
IC, alas, bf's habit of speaking to me rudely goes back to day one in our R. It has always been a problem. I've asked him over and over again to speak to me in a civil tone, not that put-upon, sighing, eye-rolling, "you're a nuisance" tone of voice. It's worse now that all this stuff is going on with his mom. If it were just these days, I would indeed cut him some slack.
That's one of the major problems in this R, I'm always cutting him some slack because of circumstances in his life. He tends to go from one crisis to the next... and they're all real crises, not imaginary ones-- being laid off from work, open heart surgery, quitting drinking, being sued by ex-wife, now mom has cancer. I cut him slack pretty much constantly, but he doesn't seem to be able to cut me any slack as I sit here somewhat immobilized.
