OUR SITCH.....pray for us

[Lkyguy]

WAW says she was getting all kinds of advice from lots of people(she works in a law office but not matrimonial law) about how to "protect herself"...& she was confused & she made the copies of my loans & stuff but never did anything with it....I can usually tell when she is lying because her lips are moving....I mean I DO believe her but I know I shouldn’t...like I DO love her & I wish I didn’t.....she says that all her life she has been codependent...doing anything not to hurt/disappoint anyone & she just cannot interact with me in any other way...she says she just allows herself to be manipulated & doesn’t think we can interact without feeling that way......I asked for an example of how I manipulate her (because if there’s something I need to change I want to be aware) but she says its mostly HER & the way she feels around me...doesn’t happen nearly as much with anyone else...my therapist says she is sober for the first time in her life & is allowing herself to be true to her feelings for the first time & she is obviously confused (she readily admits that) & she doesn’t know who she really is & its going to take time for her to figure all that out...I think her need to separate will only expedite the process ...but she is unwilling to serve me with papers for custodial custody (thank GOD), & is unwilling to leave her kids.... so she feels trapped..........I said to give it time & the answers will come.....I think the less I interact with her the better.........would love some advice....anyone out there?