... began to change the day that I let her go and turned my focus onto ME! COG
Turning the focus.....on ourselves. However, shouldn't the focus be on our positive side, not our failures as viewed by our WASs?
As FLTC pointed out he changed, but his wife just found other things to be upset about (and things his wife couldn't/wouldn't tell him). I sense that you, FLTC, have changed a lot more since being in Iraq, but I still interpret some of your writing as feeling like a failure because you can't get your wife to change her mind about your marriage. Why do you want to be married to someone like the person your wife has become? (I am not asking that to be mean, I am trying to understand my own feelings).
I think the focus should be on ourselves, but from the standpoint of how we can be happy with ourselves, imperfect as we are.
