NoDirection, I know just how you feel, my W had the baby on Thanksgiving, and the only way I found out about it was through the kids, the question of whether the baby is mine or not is still not answered. Until it is, I know I can't move forward in any way.
In a lot of ways I feel the same as you, about DB'ing, Although it has helped me, it has driving me and W further apart. I know that I must look out for me and my kids, and I think you already know that you should do the same. I am still leaving my sitch in God's hands, and trying follow His will, that's all I can do, and it sounds like you are there too.
Not knowing His will, is the hardest part of all of this, we think we know, but we just don't. Just got to have faith that it will be clear to us, someday. Take care.
