I was pointing out that the topic of threads, is supposed to follow the subject of the forum that they are posted in? lillie started this thread here. so if you substitute, "not sure why you're starting a thread in", for "not sure why you're posting in", perhaps the context is clearer.
So, you have an issue with the topic of "Tell me exactly what I did wrong" because it isn't about sex or you have an issue with Lil starting a topic on the SSM forum because she doesn't have the "M" part?
In what forum do you propose she be allowed to post?
I don't want to overwhelm you with the reprobate rainwater that you are currently soaking in, but on this forum over the past 4 years we have had sex-starved boyfriends, sex-starved girlfriends, sex-starved engaged men, sex-starved engaged women, sex-starved fiances that lived together, sex-starved fiances that didn't live together, sex-starved divorcees, sex-starved separated but still married, sex-starved still married in the process of divorce, sex-starved spouses dealing with infidelity, a hasn't been here in a while but was a favorite of mine called Stubborn Dyke (there's a hint there), sex-starved Catholics, sex-starved fundamentalists, sex-starved Jews, sex-starved agnostics, and we even allowed a couple of sex-starved foreigners in here.
If you look at the signup date of several of the current participants you'll find they've been posting here for several years. Communities build over time. Deaths, births, marriages, divorces, abuse, adultery, mental illnesses, personality disorders, injuries, diseases, pets, work, laughter, tears and more have been shared and discussed here. Forum drift, like thread drift, happens.
The people here have formed varying relationships over several years and probably are going to be about as amenable as I am currently feeling at the idea of a relative newcomer trying to send participants off the forum. Lil and I have butted heads a few times over the years, but she is a valued participant and fellow searcher who has added much benefit to me and to this forum. And I would go Yosimite Sam all over anyone's a$$ that tried to make her feel unwelcome.
