You're right. I have, however, looked at myself and know a lot of things that I needed to change, no matter what. I do understand my shortcomings. One of the issues is, however, that evn as I DB'd, and began to try and give W. what she wanted after MC in 2003, she was NEVER happy, and struck out at all around her.
One of the things that bugged her pre-MC was that I would never stay at home with the kids when they were sick. She would always have to miss work. I told her that I would make that up. For the next two years, EVERY time the kids were sick, I stayed at home, even after my boss made some comments. Another thing was that I never planned "fun things". OK. Got it. I took her to Broadway plays, concerts...no recognition...nada....zilch, except that I had not planned in detail, wherew we would go for lunch while in NYC.
So i really worked on the things that she mentioned, hoping that other good things would follow. No acknowledgement from her.
I really turned it around in those areas, but she would then veer off into a new direction. "You're 51 years old, and you take no initiative. The front door needs to be replaced" I would never have guessed that in a million years, yet I was taken to task for not noticing that and "taking the initiative to fix it". Once she mentioned it, I had it replaced within 3 days. Her comeback "There are certain things that I don't want to tell you"
