Thanks, Lin, Yes, H did say once that he is happy about his decision (to stay), but he has doubts about other (probably the way he treated OW, who knows what it is). I certainly have my doubts if he can ever cut all the connections and as such, if I am just wasting my time. I did tell him if he does not intend to stay with me, don't waste my time and he agrees that yes, he should not waste my time. We had a talk (a month ago) on where he sees us in 1 year, 3 years. And he said he sees us together. Thanks for the advice on keeping silent for now. It is hard to do but actually it is easier at this point since he is not home. We only talk for less than an hour each day so I can keep my spirit up for that long. And I can keep my misery to myself when I am not on the phone. Funny I got hit with emotions today about our future and that he may be spending the same amount of time talking to OW and I cried. I have not cried for a while, being so numb to the whole thing. It is very nice to be on posting on the board again so I can get lots of encouragement and support. THANKS to everyone.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?