"Wow, I saw it this way, its amazing how two people can see things so differently. I am sorry you felt that way. I wish you would have told me then"
husband, I am sorry you feel this way now. I can tell you I am being honest when I say the above stuff to H. I never meant to do those things, and of course wouldn't want him hurting or feeling rejected.
I don't feel overridden now, I feel forgotten and unloved. Big time.
And listen here mister (look at me when I am talking to you! ), you are not weak, you love your wife. You saw her slipping away and didn't want that. You still love her, and hope for things to improve. A weaker man would have given up, even if it meant spending less time with his son. A weaker man would have left long ago. You are the strong one.