YOUR Love Language is the way you habitually express love and generally people make the assumption that others' LL's are the same as theirs. The idea with this book is that you can learn your partner's LL, which may be different from yours.
From the Gary Chapman website:
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Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.
So he's saying that you both express your love in your Love Language AND want love expressed in the same language.
From amazon:
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A seasoned marriage counselor says people feel most loved in a marriage in one of five ways: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Though we have a primary love language [Lil: My bf's is Acts of Service], we can learn a second language so that our spouse's needs are met.
From an amazon review:
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Often, we tend to give love in the languages we are most fluent in, which usually ends up being the languages that fill up our love tank. This would be why a husband who does yard work, dishes, car maintenance, etc. (Acts of Service) is floored when his wife says "You never show me you love me. You never cuddle with me, or caress my hair, or make the first move for sex." (Physical Touch). Or, "Why don't you spend time with me? Why do you work so much?" (Quality Time)... (etc., etc...) ...But, if her language is primarily Acts of Service, she'll feel so loved and honored because her husband does so many things for her, and thus feels "full" in her love tank.
