Thanks for the advice RCR. He does want it to be that smooth and did mention that we do not need lawyers for this if we don't want. My reply was, 'yeah...if I go along with whatever you want'. I have bought myself a couple months, but I will be retaining the lawyer. See, I've been attacking this DB'ing like I have to go along with whatever he says. But I'm realizing that isn't the case. Also, I think showing him a strong, independant person who's going to stand up for herself might be a 180 that would surprise him. Sure, it'll piss him off more...but hopefully once R with the OW self destructs he'll start to see my changes as positive.
EA started about a year and half ago and PA started in January. I got pregnant in early Feb...yes it was planned!! He'd shown some opposition and we had decided to wait a few months before we tried again...3 days later I found out I was already preggo.
She broke it off with him in Aug 'cause his lies caught up with him there. 2 weeks later he dropped the bomb. They've been slowly getting back together since...now he's talking like it's pretty serious. Makes me sick.
He maintains he's going to take care of his kids. In fact he says he wants 50/50 custody. This scares me to death. Why should I lose my kids half the time when he made these choices. Another reason why I need to get the lawyer. That is one reason he is pushing to sell the house so he has his own place he can take the kids.
One of my greatest worries right now is how far down this path of self destruction he is going to go before he wakes up. I'm worried about how much more damage he's going to cause (for himself, me and the kids) before he comes around. Will he come around?? I find the patterns I read about comforting, but I do worry about how much worse he can get...especially when this is SO out of character for him. J~
