B,
I think it is a good point about the EA. My H started his PA with an EA by talking about his problems in our M...they were swapping spouse stories. Wish I'd known we were having problems then I might have been able to do something about it.
Great that you are in this sitch now BEFORE it turned PA...well...not great that you're in this sitch, but I guess I'm saying it could be worse!!. You know what I mean!

Keep it going...J~

M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out