Casey Your safety is paramont. If you do the talk do it where he cannot cause you grief.
I know when I was younger I had a pickup and was sought out but women who wanted to dump violent boyfriends and wanted to move. So I would scare their boyfriend and help them move then get dumped. No worries. Maybe you need to find a guy with big arms and a pickup.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin