Your right...I have a friend who is 80 that just married a woman who is 64...obviously they are not "paralyzed from the waist down"...
However, that being said, you can't discount that there are more then just a few reasons that someone might not have desire...it could be an attraction issue...it could be a hygiene issue...it could be childhood issues...abuse issues...physical issues...emotional issues...and the list goes on...this also doesn't change how much love a person might have for another...just because they may not 'feel' a sexual desire doesn't mean that they don't love the person and desire to contribute to that person's happiness...
I have spent my life with H from the time I was 15...things were great until MLC for him hit...it was 3 years of ugh...2 years of HELL...followed by, so far, 3 years of rehab of our R/M...I am happy to have his love back...and hopeful to have the desire back at some point...but I also know he doesn't feel good about NOT desiring me...he wants to "feel it"...but until we find out what exactly the problem is I will be happy with his love...
