I put up with most of the calls cause of my strange sitch. But I did ask for no calls on Thanksgiving. We had to travel 1.5 hrs to get to dinner and I didn't want any calls while in the car, for sure. He didn't talk to her all day...
I love this site: Lifescript. They always have great articles. Just read one about how biting your tongue instead of saying what's on your mind, is actually detrimental to women's health! What the recent study found breaks new ground in understanding marital stress and health risks. First, women who bit their tongues during a conflict with their spouse had four times the risk of dying compared to women who did not.
They always have great articles. Just read one about how biting your tongue instead of saying what's on your mind, is actually detrimental to women's health!
Joie,
I depends. True constructive thoughts are fine. It's the smart a$$ thoughts that are not; My thought: Why don't you ask that cheating ass MARRIED BF of your to help you........
this is a thought beter left unsaid. I have cought myself now twice saying things that were kind of how I felt but in a smart aSS sort of way. One ting I said recently that was uncalled for, I was wondering why I got this rash on my hands. Instead of asking W if she changed laundry detregent or something I said "did you change detrgent of put put something in my shampoo? I know stupid but this is what I mean about constructive thoughts.
Husband
Husband
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
H, I sort of put that article info up there for fun. It's easy to say what's on your mind and be sarcastic, huh? Been there done that myself. That is first nature for many of us. On the other hand, saying what's on your mind in a thoughtful, well-constructed way, not as easy! But we all know the bottom line is COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
Hurtin, my H seems to be climbing down off the fence. OW is still being nasty -- well off and on, but the nasty moments are destroying the fantasy. Someone hit me because I sort of feel sorry for her. As far as what I'm doing to help him off of it ... faced by own issues with intimacy.
Well, possibly a break-through in my sitch. OW claims she has a job lined up in FL. Says she starts first week in January. H was talking to me about her being drunk again tonight when I got home from work. And then she called ... on the warpath again.
I am a Scout leader and our meetings are on Monday night so I was preparing for that. Was almost time to leave and H comes to me, with his cell phone in his hand, still talking to OW and says, she wants to talk to you.
I just stood there and looked at his phone, then him, then the phone and finally said, "I'm leaving for Scouts, if she really wants to talk to me she can call me at 8:30 when I get home." Part of me wanted to talk, but I knew it would probably not be a pleasant conversation and I had a meeting to get to and run! Plus, didn't really want to risk going off on her with my husband's sitch as it is.
Geez, my cell phone just rang and I thought it was going to be her. It was not. Don't think she has that number anyway.
So, could be good news for me, but we shall see -- who knows if she will go or if she's telling the truth!
