I agree to some extent with HW... My H wants to desire me sexually but just doesn't feel "it" however, my H loves me...so do I say the R is over because he can't desire me the way he used to?
I feel with my H (he has never stated this but I feel it) he was severely abused both physically, sexually, and emotionally...while this didn't seem to effect our sexual relationship and his desire when we were younger something happened as he entered MLC...or maybe sometime before...he started losing the desire...now he had an A...after his return nearly 2 years later and about as long after the A ended he disclosed to me that the A was not sexually driven...in fact he had little sexual desire but performed as though he had desire the few times they were together...
So for my H and our situation I truly believe it is more then just a matter of wanting something...I think he was damaged as a young boy and the wounds have now surfaced and I am not sure how they will heal...if he will ever feel the desire he once did...but with love I KNOW we can make it...and for my part as long as he expresses his love to me and offers to care for my needs with or without desire involved...well then I will stay...
Do I feel deprived...maybe a little because I know what it was like to feel desired by him at one time...but at the same time I felt way more deprived when I didn't have his love...so I will take the love and hope that one day the desire will be there...until then...we continue to love
