I wouldn't want for very long to have sex with *that* person if he was not acting with love toward me in the quotidian aspects of our marriage.
But the way I am wired up as an individual, I do not *feel* romantically loved unless receiving regular, good-natured touch and sex. In the "no sexual desire" scenario, I'd get roommate not marriage; what's the point?
Corri, I am standing up saying the "whoo hoo" cheer to your bf right now. And I like your word "invite". And I'm very intrigued by (paraphrasing) "Love (which I take to mean, living with a heart open to love and intimacy) is an incredible act of courage. Sexual desire is the reward."
In response to Heywyre ... I know this is probably an unusual case ... but my dear friend lost his father recently. He had been fighting Parkinson's for many many years; the last six years of his life, he was bent double, racked with tremors, and barely mobile. Yet his wife told me that they were having sex up until the last month of his life (in his late 70's by then). How, I don't know and didn't like to ask ... but there you are. It can be done.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
