Just because he loves you, doesn't mean he has sexual DESIRE - it's not something that comes automatically to a lot of people, men and women alike, just because they love someone
If he loved(verb) me for my pilgrim soul (accepted me as I am including my sexuality), he would desire (broadly defined to include all the reasons that might motivate somebody to do something) to have sex with me. This is just the same as saying that if I love my child I will desire to keep her/him fed. Sometimes I might want to eat myself. Sometimes not. If I didn't want to feed my child because I was an anorexic, I would put it up for adoption. Of course, since I am not a child, I would realize that my partner wasn't capable/willing to love me because he was an anorexic and I would leave. Same goes if my partner wasn't willing/capable of feeding me because he was resentful/lazy etc. etc. Nothing could compel me to stay in a relationship that I recognized was that unhealthy for me.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
