being loved is necessary but not sufficient and being desired is necessary but not sufficient.
I know that evades the question.
If you "waterboarded" me, I guess I would have to say that being loved is more important, but knowing that someone loves you (as I know my bf does) and yet not seeing evidence of any desire is pretty dadgummed hard to live with year after year... especially when I was truly loved by one man at one time and truly desired by another man at one time. How lovely to have both of those in the SAME MAN. I can hardly imagine it.
