Do you think maybe he thinks he isn't being heard?
Hey trying...this is one of his chief complaints about our marriage. That he just existed, he was always 'overrode' about things, not heard, needs not met. I can see and understand some of this, but not all. However...I do just listen at this point. I don't take abuse, but I listen. Sometimes I say something like "Wow, I saw it this way, its amazing how two people can see things so differently. I am sorry you felt that way. I wish you would have told me then". Stuff like that.
We had a great holiday. H worked most of the time. Joined us for a bit at his family's, and it was nice. Had another quieter, less angry R talk last night, but still here we are. Oh and I peeked, tons of calls (unanswered) from a private number to H's cell phone yesterday. Guess she wanted to wish him a Happy Thanksgiving, but its hard when the wife isn't working...
We put up Christmas at our house today, pulled out all the stops. I, myself, started a fire in our fireplace. We made hot chocolate, decorated the tree, its been really nice.
