I just think of it as "doing" my natural sexual persona but keeping my clothes on. What you might not realize is that your BF is "telling" you to give him sexual validation.
He isn't 'telling' me anything. I see it more as 'inviting' me. Just like he does when he give me dancing lessons. He shows me something. He invites me to do it. He knows I can. He watches me struggle. In his world, there is no 'try.' You 'do' or you 'don.t' But you don't beat someone up because they 'can't.' There is not 'try.' Everyone has off moments, everyone struggles. Everyone faces themselves. And he waits until you decide to 'do' or not 'do.' If I decide to not 'do,' we are done dancing. He will not waste his or my time.
I just need to follow his lead. In all aspects of the R. I'm a female version of Mr. Nice Guy sometimes. I let people off the hook. And that is so not.... GOOD, in any way shape or form. I KNOW this.
